How to let go of a loved one
04.07.2023 0 комментариев
How to let go of a loved one
It happens that the relationship between two people, which, as it seemed, was cloudless, suddenly ends. No matter why, there can be many reasons — from purely subjective to objective insurmountable obstacles. It happens. We just face the fact that what was beautiful is gone forever and will never return, and you just need to let go of your loved one humanto make it easier for both of you.
You will need
- — patience
- — sedative
- — work/hobby
Remember all those moments that brought you together. It is necessary to allocate an evening in which you will be absolutely alone so that no one disturbs you. Dedicate it to writing a letter that you will never send. Describe in it all the good moments that were, and then burn this letter.
Think about what, in fact, it will be much better and easier for both of you. It’s just that someone has to take the first step to make it easier for the other. Cut off all contact with your once loved one and do not allow any connection. At first it will be painfully bitter, but then it will only get better, the most difficult thing is the first couple of months.
In case the previous two steps didn’t work for you, dig into your memory. You are sure to find a lot of unpleasant things associated with this person. Use them to cultivate hatred for him. Forget everything except that, leave only hatred and aggression. Remember the pain and resentment that he caused you. Make him guilty, understand, in the end, that only you are hurting now. This should whip up pride in making this period easier for you.
Take all your free time, which is available, constructive activities. Learn the language and work with double zeal, sign up for courses — do whatever makes your day easier. In the evening, resort to the help of a sedative and sleeping pills — the most difficult time of the day for you will be exactly the evening and night.
Arrange yourself a little vacation and go where you always wanted to, but for some reason there was not enough time. Devote this time to yourself, completely and completely, make sure that not a single drop of negativity can seep through your desire to live free and happy. Let the words «happiness» and «freedom» become your credo for this period.
If all previous cases have failed and failed, contact a qualified psychoanalyst. Remember that this is the only person who can help you, so do not be too secretive. The more information you give him, the more complete help — exactly help, and not just support — you can count on.
Tip 2: How to let go
Breaking up is always painful. And, strange as it sounds, painful for both sides. How to survive a breakup and start living happily? The question is not idle, especially for women, since they are naturally more emotional. How to let go of a loved one if the feelings were serious enough? Let’s try to approach the question analytically.
Try to follow the advice of psychologists, even if you are currently completely sure that your unearthly passion has nothing to do with the rest. No matter how trite it sounds, but this is your, subjective, view. In fact, in the relationship of the sexes, everything has long been studied and taken under control. Believe me, you are not the first in this situation. And life at parting did not end. Therefore, if there is a desire to grieve and cry, set aside a strictly defined time for this. But not more than a week. After that, start acting strictly according to the instructions.
Do not try to renew a relationship, seek meetings with a former lover.
The first thing you need to do is to remove everything that may remind you of him out of sight. Fold and put away, until better times, your common things. Delete his number from your phone. If he wants, he will call and find it himself. And these temptations are of no use to you.
The second point of your plan is a reassessment of values. Make a list of all his shortcomings. Do not spare black paint, remember everything for him. After washing the bones of your ex, take care of yourself. On another piece of paper, write a complete list of your strengths. Now compare these two lists. Of course, this ritual should not be taken very seriously. But still, it will help you realize your value as a person. You will understand that the fact that a man left you did not make you worse. And they didn’t leave you because you’re fat or ugly. In most cases, the man himself is not able to explain the reason for the gap. And you do not need these puzzles, and even more so.
You have already taken the first couple of steps into a new life. Now is the time to plan your future life. Plan for big changes. Nothing distracts from the past like the turbulent present. Now you are an absolutely free woman, and you have more free time. Surely, you have some unrealized plans. Now is the time to start implementing them. Plan in detail how you will achieve what you want. If you think that there is not enough money to implement the plan, look for ways to make money.
Another good way to distract yourself from your own problems is to plunge into the problems of others. Just don’t make it a constant practice. Everything is good in moderation.
Don’t rush into a new relationship. Take a time out. Everything has its time. Now you just need to find peace of mind. Don’t avoid talking to men. Meet, flirt, flirt. Do not treat men as enemies, with this approach you risk being left alone for a long time.
It is not necessary to act from the principle of «a wedge is knocked out with a wedge.» The person you find right after a breakup will not do anything good — he will just remind you of that beautiful thing that will never return.