How to understand your young man
04.07.2023 0 комментариев
How to understand your young man
It is sometimes difficult for people to understand each other. And if we are talking about people of different sexes — even more so. Finding mutual understanding with your loved one is very important for a long and harmonious relationship. If your goal is to better understand your young human, learn the art of communication (this skill will be useful to you not only in your personal life). To do this, listen to the following, not very complicated, but effective tips.
Make sure your chosen one is set to chat. Otherwise, your attempts to talk heart to heart will only annoy him.
If you think it’s the right time to talk, ask questions that he can’t give a short, definitive answer to. Most likely, already at this stage you will receive a lot of information about your young man. Try to listen and hear.
Ask questions that really interest you before you begin to make joint plans for the future. Most relationship problems could be avoided if we asked more (and listened carefully to the answers).
Let’s get feedback. Make sure you understand everything correctly, and not in the way you would like to understand.
Know that a man needs love and reciprocity no less than you. At heart, we are all afraid of being unloved. Consider and respect this need of your chosen one.
Don’t play games. Deception and manipulation do not contribute to the development of harmonious and reliable relationships, but only temporarily help you achieve certain results in your personal life.
Judge a man by how he treats you. Analyze not only his words, but also his actions.
To avoid problems in the future, pay attention to dysfunctional signals in the relationship in advance. Especially the ones you don’t want to see. By carefully observing the behavior of your chosen one, you can get a lot of information. Do not leave it unattended — you will not be in trouble.
Do not demand from a man actions that are not characteristic of his nature. If this does not suit you, maybe this is not the right man?
Be yourself. Be interesting. Look for a partner who can appreciate the real you. Then mutual understanding will not be long in coming.
Tip 2: How to understand a young person
Some problems in gender relations occur because men and women have different physiology and psychology. They look at the same thing in different ways, and react differently in the same way! It is quite natural that a person who is accustomed to considering his feelings and his reaction as the only correct ones experiences embarrassment, bewilderment and even irritation, not seeing manifestations of the same feelings and the same reaction in another person. How can a girl check that a guy sincerely loves her? How can she learn to understand her young man, to distinguish truth from lies?
First of all, understand and accept the truth: the guy is different in absolutely everything. It is stupid and pointless to expect from him that he will behave in this or that situation, like another girl, even his best friend! It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you at all.
Remember that the vast majority of guys hate endless and empty (from their point of view) chatter. For 99% of girls in love to hear for the tenth, twentieth, hundredth time the words: “I love you, you are the best, most beautiful, most desired …” — heavenly music. They are ready to listen to it for the two hundredth time, and for the thousandth. For 99% of guys, endlessly repeating something is torture and mockery. Even when it comes to words of love.
Every girl should memorize, like “twice two is four”: a truly loving guy proves love with deeds, not words! If he does not tell her every hour about his crazy love, this does not mean at all that his feelings are insincere! Let her remember better: did he meet her in the dark at the bus stop to walk her home? Did he take away her heavy burden so that she would not get tired? Did you help around the house or school? Did you show initiative in communication, for example, did you call yourself? Did he worry when she was sick, did he offer his help? The answers to these questions will say a lot!
Don’t forget that boys and girls have completely different interests! Alas, it is not uncommon for a seemingly completely normal, intelligent girl to be mortally offended by her gentleman: he, they say, almost yawned, listening to her story, with all his appearance showed that he was tired of her! In response to a completely reasonable question: “What did you tell him about?” followed by a detailed description of a trip to a store for purely feminine purchases or a retelling of some gossip. The poor girl had no idea that such topics, which would surely interest a girlfriend, cause gnashing of teeth even in the most loving guy.