How to be the best lover

In order to one day hear that you are the best in the world, you need to understand why and for what men make mistresses. It would seem that the answer lies on the surface. Sex, you say. And, of course, you will be right. But after all, not every woman who has had sex with a married man and does not mind having a long-term relationship with him has them afterwards. After all, not everything is so simple. A mistress is not only an object of satisfaction of carnal desires, although this moment is also present. Often a lover appears in a man’s life because he lacks love. Yes, years, life, age have cooled their feelings with his wife, the relationship has turned into a routine and obligation, and the male soul longs to be treated kindly. Therefore, the surest way to become the best mistress — give a man love, not just sex. Love it. He will feel if you are sincere with him, and not just want to use it as an additional source of material wealth. If you are looking for a short tutorial on subjugating a man for selfish purposes, this article is not for you.

Very often, people living for a long time stop hearing each other. Yes. They talk to each other, but they don’t hear. Therefore, listen to your man if he began to be frank with you. Do not interrupt, do not criticize, and in no case laugh at him (he has enough negativity without you). At first, just listen and let’s understand what you are interested in with him. Everything he says is priceless to you. This is also a way to show your love. Whether he’s talking to you about a job you don’t understand, or about relatives you probably won’t see, or about his childhood long gone, listen and remember. Why is he telling you about this? Most likely he does this because he has no one else to tell, but he needs it. If you are really interested in a person, you yourself will hang on his every word, because this is a way to be closer. If you are tired of the topic, then at least do not yawn and do not interrupt with clumsy attempts to transfer the conversation to another topic. Men are rather vulnerable creatures and by nature are not prone to long conversations with ladies. So take his monologues as an honour.

The main task of a woman who wants to tie a married man to her for a long time is to give him what he lacks in the family. Therefore, act in contrast with his wife. Is she on a diet and doesn’t keep sweets in the house? Bake him pies or surprise him with delicious desserts. If she does not give him the opportunity to watch football matches, give him the opportunity or ask him to take you to the match with him. The wife prefers to spend her weekends at home watching TV — invite him to go skiing, ice skating or organize a trip to nature. I’m sure your quirky female mind will figure out how to arrange all this. The main thing is to give a man new emotions and impressions, which he is deprived of in a long family life. And he will tell you the source of these emotions himself, talking about what he loves and what he does not.

You must be interesting to the chosen man. In addition to sexual interest, he must be fascinated by you as a person. Tell him about the latest movies, favorite books, music. Perhaps the world of painting and poetry in small quantities will also be of interest to him. Show him that you are a thinking and versatile person. You get hooked on communication with a smart and erudite woman as much as on good sex.

What you should not do is compete with his wife in those areas in which she is strong. Perhaps out of a sense of rivalry, you would even like this, but you should not do this — it will be boring for him. Why does he need another Van Gogh connoisseur or Bryan Adams fan in his life? One is enough.

And finally, do not confuse, a lover is not a girlfriend. Don’t tell him about your problems. Let his wife tell him about the problems. You should be for him a woman-rest, a woman-holiday. He misses it so much. He comes to you precisely because you have become a bright spot in his gray everyday life. What pushed him to you — whether passion, lust, feelings, is not so important now. To keep him, you need to be able to remain for him this flash and outlet. And it’s not easy. And therefore, if you are tired, unwell, or irritated, do not date him. To what it. Be a little fabulous for him, a little out of this life. We all want to believe in fairy tales. At least a little.