How to convince your husband
05.07.2023 0 комментариев
How to convince your husband
If quarrels and conflicts are a frequent occurrence in your marriage, then this can have a very negative impact on relationships with your husband and even cause a divorce. But there is a way to change the situation — every time another spat is coming, try to convince husband that the truth is on your side. The main thing is that the methods and method of persuasion do not hurt his feelings, then everything will be in order.
You will need
- The gift of persuasion
- Ability to think strategically
- Child support
- Forgiving Heart
To convince husbandbe sure to be persistent. But at the same time, try not to offend his feelings and self-esteem. Remember that you are not arguing to fight, but because you have a great point of view. Be gentle in your conviction.
You can try to use ancient Chinese military technology — pretend that you agree with everything that your husband says, admit that you were wrong, take on all the sins of mankind and there is a chance that your husband will back down and accept your arguments.
Expand the boundaries of your ideas about your dispute. You cannot agree because you think your point of view is correct. But imagine that your husband thinks that you disagree with him because you don’t understand his opinion. Let him know that you recognize the right to exist of his decision, and, of course, what he proposes, but there is a more perfect version — yours.
Good for persuasion husband polite submissive silence. Just leave the room in the middle of an argument. On your return, behave at ease, politely, but remain silent. After a while, the husband must give up!
To convince husband perhaps with the support of children. Because he loves them (and so do you), so the “kids will love this” argument works quite well.
Tip 2: How to convince your husband to stop drinking
“My husband drinks”… Unfortunately, these words are familiar to many women firsthand. Everyone has their own stories and destinies, one thing in common is an ardent desire to help a loved one return to a normal life, in which alcohol plays far from the greatest importance.
Think about what your man’s drunkenness is connected with? Most psychologists agree that it is not problems that make a person drink, but a weak person tries to get away from problems in this way. As a rule, drinking men do not have enough inner strength to change life circumstances, and alcohol helps them come to terms with the situation. And for good, such men can hardly be called a truly strong sex. But you can’t command your heart, and if your life partner turned out to be such a “weak strong” sex, then you need to think about how to restore his faith in himself and that he has every opportunity to live a normal life and solve problems without resorting to alcohol .
Try to get as close to your husband as possible. Let him know that not reproaches-tantrums-threats await him at home, but a gentle and warm attitude, participation and understanding. However, do not justify drinking! If behavior husband does not change, then make it clear that you do not want to tolerate it. Just don’t throw around the words “divorce” and “leave” — sometimes it’s enough to say them once, after which the spouse will become an ex-husband. Let the man know that if his behavior does not change, he may lose you. To do this, live your life, do not fawn and do not look into your eyes, do not show your tears and emotions. Let him feel that with each drunken return home, you are moving further and further away from him.
At the same time, try to convey husbandhow hurt you are by his behavior. Only not with tears and tantrums, but with a constructive, calm, reasoned conversation. Do not start a conversation with a drunk man, let him sober up first and come to a normal mood. Immediately be prepared for the fact that quite a lot of such sentimental conversations will be required. Explain to the man that he is becoming far from being the best example for children who see and understand everything (even if they are still small). If possible, take a photo husband drunk, or better yet, record it on video and show him the pictures or the recording when he is in a normal state — perhaps this will help him understand how low he has fallen.
If the husband drinks with constant drinking companions, then try to change his circle of friends (just don’t do it too obviously and defiantly). To do this, load it with work, leaving no time for drunken companies — start making repairs, start a garden, a summer house. Connect relatives and friends, organize joint trips to nature, trips to the cinema, theater, themed holidays with a minimum of alcohol (or better without it). Show your husband that life is beautiful without drinking.
Invite your husband to seek medical help, visit a narcologist, or «code». At the same time, the most important thing is that he himself wants to stop drinking (or at least admits that he abuses alcohol), otherwise the result, if any, is very unstable. Also, unobtrusively slip information to your husband about the negative impact of alcohol on health (and especially on the male genital organs and their functions).
All of the above applies to situations of systematic, but not constant, drunkenness. If the husband has already crossed a certain line, and alcohol has become the meaning of his life, if he began to take money and things out of the house, if in a state of intoxication (or, conversely, with a hangover), he raises his hand against you, have pity on yourself (and children, if they are)! In this case, you are already powerless, and only professional medical assistance can help a man. And if he believes that he does not need such help, then find the strength to leave. Perhaps your departure will make him realize the problem and find a way out of the impasse. And if not — do not punish yourself — you did everything you could, but sacrificing yourself in such a situation is simply absurd.