How to restore relationships

Remember that if a man is packing his bags, then the atmosphere in the family does not suit him. The responsibility for creating spiritual relationships lies entirely with the woman. Therefore, you do not need to blame him for all sins. You are also to blame. This is true even if the husband was about to leave for his mistress. The reason is still the lack of a good atmosphere in the family. Otherwise, he would not have gone to look outside for what he lacks at home. The first thing you must do is realize that you are responsible for everything that happens.

Realizing this, it is very easy to fulfill the second point. Namely, stop making a fuss, nag, blame and reproach a man for all misfortunes. This is what causes most of the problems. What man would want to return to a place where he is scolded and humiliated? Naturally, when a woman behaves in this way, she does not think about her husband, but about her grievances. Perhaps they seem to be really justified. But if it comes to that relations you need to restore, you need to forget about grievances and think about how to return the atmosphere of love to your family.

From this follows the third point — not to scold, but to praise. No matter what. For taking out the garbage, for going for bread. Even for waking up on time, you can also praise! You yourself have probably noticed more than once what a magical effect praises produce. If you speak them sincerely, a person will feel the wings behind his back. So give more often this feeling to your man! Surely he is not spoiled for compliments from you.

Talk to your significant other more often, do it sincerely and with confidence. Most misunderstandings in a couple occur because a man does something different from what a woman thinks, and in response she closes in resentment. But if you sit down and figure it out, you will understand that he did this not to annoy you, but simply because he thinks and acts differently. A man may not even realize that some of his actions offend you. Therefore, you need to explain to him every time what exactly you did not like. And do it in a calm, friendly conversation. Make it a rule to talk to a man as to your best friend, and you yourself will be surprised how quickly your relations happiness and love will return.

Admit your guilt. In any conflict, at least two parties are involved, each of which is confident in its own rightness. But often, defending their own point of view, people hurt each other with harsh words. It turns out that, in general, a person is right, but because of the inept solution of the issue, he makes mistakes. Therefore, before restoring relationsyou need to sincerely understand and admit your mistakes.

Change your conflict resolution methods. No one disputes that it is much easier to raise your voice or even shout and express your opinion clearly than to sit down and discuss everything. But it is impossible to restore the lost relations without respectful discussion and exchange of thoughts. Try to apply this advice in your familyand you will see that it works.

Be polite. Relationships built on tact, courtesy and politeness are always strong and highly valued. Train yourself to say “thank you”, “please”, “be kind”, “if it’s not difficult for you”, “sorry”, and so on. Be able to notice the positive actions of your spouse and sincerely praise for them. Do not think that if you are not accustomed to such a line of behavior from childhood, then in adulthood it is impossible to learn it.

Communicate more often. Do this not occasionally, but regularly. For example, plan to set aside half an hour to chat with each other after or during dinner. By the way, a joint meal unites the family very much and contributes to a warm atmosphere in it. When communicating, focus on your feelings and say what exactly and why you like it or not. Do not make claims, but replace them with requests.

Do things together. This includes not only planning a vacation, but also purchasing food, cleaning the house, cooking. In general, everything that requires joint efforts. It may not be easy for you at first, but don’t let circumstances bring you down.

Be patient. Lost relations do not recover in a day or a week. But instead of focusing on what you have not achieved, analyze together what you are doing and set further goals for yourself.