How to ask a guy out on a date

If you see a guy you haven’t met before (say, in a coffee shop, at a museum, or even at a bus stop), you first need to decide if he is worth asking him out on a date. Go up to him and start a short conversation with him about anything — about the dish he has chosen (in a cafe), about the artist whose paintings hang in front of you (in a museum), about the weather (at a bus stop). After 10-15 minutes of conversation, you will understand if you want to go on a date with this guy. If an inner voice tells you that this is a worthy option, be frank and ask directly if he wants to go with you to another cafe, or another exhibition, or just take a walk in the park. Whatever you hear in response, keep a cheerful and casual look. Girls with desperation in their eyes do not attract men. If a guy enjoys your company, he will agree. But there is no trial, and in general, look, there is another handsome guy over there, maybe you should go up to him?

If you are attracted to a guy who attends yoga classes with you, for example, you have the advantage of showing off your worth every day. Always wear beautiful bright clothes to class, make sure your hair and makeup are impeccable. During the break, start a friendly conversation with him about your classes (or work — if you are colleagues). Smile at him, try to make him laugh, shared laughter is a great start to flirting. During the conversation, as if by chance, touch his hand. If he caught the hint, then the next time you meet, you will most likely exchange phone numbers. Well, if you can’t wait, invite him to drink a glass of juice in the bar of your fitness club or in a cafe nearby. This way you can determine whether it’s really «your» object without adjusting the event.

If you like him for a long time and you would like more than just being friends, just admit it to him. Ask him to sit down and tell him directly how you feel about him. This confession can be a little dumbfounded for a guy, especially if until now he has not had a reason to notice your sympathy. If he feels the same way about you, you will inevitably arrange a date. If not (or if he looks a little shocked by this news), tell him that you shared your feelings with him because you trust him, and that you don’t expect the same in return. Explain that your friendship is very important to you and you want to keep it. Be sincere when you say it.

This method is good for a club or any other place where a lot of people gather. Swiftly walk past him and «accidentally» hit him with your shoulder. Then turn to him, smile broadly and apologize. He will most likely smile back. When he does, smile again and step back. When talking with friends, try to be in his field of vision. While sipping your drink, periodically catch his eye and smile at him. If he correctly perceived your signals, he will invite you to dance. Dancing with him, you can take another step towards rapprochement, because in order to chat on a noisy dance floor, you need to speak to your partner in your ear.

At the bar, ask the waiter what that young man over there is drinking, and send the same drink along with a note to his table. If it’s in a cafe, send him a gift in the form of something sweet, such as a cake, accompanying the gift with a napkin with your name and phone number. You can also invite him to keep you company.

Any guy would love that kind of attention, and if he doesn’t react in any way, he’s probably just a bore. However, if you think he’s just being shy, approach him and strike up a conversation.