Realize why you need to look for the fact of treason and mistress? After all, as you know, who seeks, he will find. A woman, if she loves a man, secretly hopes that after the «investigation» life will return to its previous course. That, in fact, the beloved did not even think of going to the side. And he only loves her. And everything can happen differently. If fears are confirmed, will you be ready to experience pain, shock, disappointment? You will need to start living differently. «Knowledge» can change a lot. Perhaps you want to compare yourself with «her» and understand what she is better at? Stop yourself right away: this woman chooses a partner from a “better” position, a man starts a relationship with his mistress just because she is “different”, not like you.

Watch your husband’s behavior. If you have been together for a long time, you already know his habits and character. When a man has an “optional activity”, and he hides it in every possible way, this will certainly come to light through tension. The husband may become too irritable or overly secretive. He will react painfully to viewing his mail or messages on a mobile phone. Dating two women at the same time often violates plans and agreements, it is difficult for him to plan the time that you will spend together. A man may have less sex with you, not answer the phone in front of you, avoid joint gatherings with mutual friends. All these moments may indicate that the man has another woman.

Talk to your husband. Tell him that you are concerned about his behavior and the situation. Convey to him the feelings that you are experiencing. Try to find a constructive way out of the situation together.

If the husband denies everything, but the facts are there, you can get into his mail or look at your mobile phone as evidence for yourself. As a rule, if someone is on the side, then the traces are found. It is easy to find a person by the found phone number. On social networks, you can see what his mistress looks like. You can even call her and have a friendly chat: after all, you have common topics.

Chat with mutual friends. As a rule, a bunch of well-wishers appear, seeking to open their eyes to what is happening and tell the whole truth-womb. You might be lucky and they’ll even tell you who «she» is.

Get a detective. Now the services of spying on people are provided by specialized agencies or private detectives, many of them even have a license for this type of activity. In a few days you will have evidence or refutation in the form of photographs and evidence.

Try not to read SMS husband, do not follow his connections in Odnoklassniki. The habit of watching can take root deep in you, and even innocent acquaintances of a spouse will arouse suspicion. In addition, it will be difficult for you to justify yourself if he figures out your maneuver.

Just watch your spouse. If suddenly he has new hobbies, do not rush to be annoyed that he has completely lost interest in you. Offer to give him a lift to his destination — a fitness club or a lecture hall, where he now disappears all day long.

Then you just have to sign up for a trial lesson in aqua aerobics in the same club, without informing your husband about it. You are not doing anything shameful, you are just improving your health. And the fact that you saw your husband escorting a pretty blonde is a pure coincidence. See what he has to say in his defense.

New connections are often made at work. Make friends with colleagues husband or pop into his office unannounced at the end of the day. Say you’re bored. You will understand whether late rush jobs or romantic candlelight dinners are really delaying him.

Don’t neglect common companies. Perhaps old acquaintances are aware of the details of your spouse’s personal life. It will not be difficult to find out the name of the opponent from them.

If, due to anxiety, you have completely lost sleep and appetite, decide on an extreme measure — hire a private detective. However, if your suspicions are unfounded, and the detective confirms this, visit a psychologist. It will not be superfluous to understand why you are so worried about loyalty husband.

The best way to find out the name of an opponent is a direct conversation. It is impossible to hide a real feeling, if an affair on the side threatens your family well-being, the spouse will not be able to hide anything. If, like a partisan under interrogation, he refuses to talk about treason, don’t insist. Perhaps his passion is purely platonic and will quickly pass.

When deciding to take drastic measures, ask yourself if you are ready to know the name of the potential destroyer of the family hearth. Maybe you should not give free rein to your curiosity, because sooner or later it will come to naught, and living, feeling the bitterness of the betrayal of a loved one, is not at all easy.