How to deal with men
06.07.2023 0 комментариев
How to deal with men
Relationships are a very difficult thing. In addition to the fact that our heads are filled with all sorts of stereotypes, women and men, nevertheless, are very different creatures. It’s so easy to make mistakes in a relationship — and it’s so hard to find a common language later. But if you follow a few simple rules, it can be much easier to do.
Learn mutual respect. It should become the main principle on which your relationship is based. Regardless of which of you earns how much, who communicates with whom and who has what interests, you must respect a man, and he must respect you.
Learn to compromise. Don’t take compromise as a loss. On the contrary, it should be a win for both parties. In any controversial issue, do not be stubborn like a bull, and do not give in — this will give rise to a feeling of resentment and injustice. Try to find an option that would suit both, let each of you make some concessions, so that in the end both parties are satisfied with the decision.
Learn to trust each other. Jealousy in certain doses is good, a person feels needed and loved. But constant persecution, nagging, dissatisfaction, jealousy for every moving object can only piss you off and nothing more. The partner needs to feel trusted because trust comes from respect. Stop constantly calling your man and asking where he is, with whom and when he will be at home. As a rule, it is excessive jealousy that leads to betrayal.
Learn to help each other. Of course, men are the stronger sex, and sometimes they do not want to admit that they need help from anyone, especially from a woman. However, this does not mean that he really does not need your help and support. Both of you should become a reliable support for each other, the closest person who is ready to support at any moment. Just do not try to be too intrusive with offers of help, because otherwise a man may perceive this as a reproach for his weakness.
Stop treating a man like a child. Never pretend to be a caring mother who always reminds a man what he needs to do, what to do. Remember that you are his woman, not his mother. Stick to this rule if you don’t want your man to really start acting like a child.
Never play the victim. Yes, of course, you are a woman, you are weaker, but this does not mean at all that you need to constantly feel disadvantaged in something so that a man once again begins to convince you.
Love a man for who he is, not for what he could be. Many women, falling in love, draw rainbow images for themselves, and when they realize that reality does not coincide with these images, they begin to try to fit it into them. Of course, you change a man in one way or another, and he changes you. But do not try to remake it for yourself, this is a sign of disrespect for what it is.