How to deal with your feelings

Spend more time with the person. Whether it’s a walk, a conversation or watching a movie. Listen to yourself: what do you feel what you see in these eyes opposite? If the internal confusion does not go away, and, perhaps, only grows, move away from it.

Spend some time without personal or full contact with a person. A day, two, a week. As many as you need. Try to track how often you think about him, with warmth or indifference. You become interested in someone else while he is not around. Touch what connected you before: trips, common interests, stories, photos, correspondence. Do not meticulously look for something «catchy». If it is, you won’t miss it. You can also try to make lists FOR and AGAINST. As a rule, very few people go for it. But this method cannot be immediately written off.

Finally, after being apart for a while, meet the person. What emotions did you experience when you saw him? Calmness or desire to hug, get closer and never let go. If you didn’t feel any obvious signs of a desire to be with him, apparently, the feeling has passed. Just let go and remember with a smile. If, on the contrary, just by seeing him, you wanted to throw yourself into his arms, even if you didn’t, then you were affirmed in the strength and importance of your feelings. Live, love and be loved. But perhaps nothing has changed and the confusion has not gone away. In this case, if a person makes contact and also wants to help you, just try to talk, or give him the opportunity to help find such an illusory answer for you.