How to explain to your husband that he is wrong

06.07.2023 0 комментариев


How to explain to your husband that he is wrong

Remember how adults separate arguing and fighting kids? “Whoever stops the argument first is smarter,” they say. And often it works — the quarrel stops. Maybe, in the case of your husband, you should be the first to stop the argument about who is right and who is not? If, nevertheless, it is important for you to prove your case, then be guided by the following tips.
What is more important - truth or compromise?


First you need to calm down (at least for a while, if you still can’t calm down at all). This can help, for example, cleaning around the house (washing floors, dishes, baths). Physical labor helps to calm down, throw out irritation and stress. And the conversation will only be productive when the interlocutors are calm.
Putting yourself in the place of another person, especially in a difficult situation (during a quarrel, for example), is difficult, you don’t want to. And the easiest way is to dismiss the phrase: “Well, his position is clear! Only she is wrong! Here I am telling the truth!” But the conclusions can be erroneous when the situation was looked at only from one side. Therefore, look at the situation through the eyes of your husband, and encourage him to evaluate what happened on your part.
Try not to prove your husband wrong, but offer a compromise. No matter how much you love, you cannot always and everywhere agree with the one you love. But this is not yet a reason for divorce. But if you don’t know how to compromise (“he compromised and didn’t return”), negotiate and give in to something (even in small things), then it’s better to live free.
If you do not agree with your loved ones, but still want to find a common language with them, first get rid of the words “obviously”, “naturally”, “undoubtedly”, “unconditionally”, “it goes without saying” — all this is obvious, undoubtedly , certainly and goes without saying for those who agree with you. Those who disagree, such words will only anger. Replace the categorical «You’re wrong!» to soft, but the same in meaning: “It seems to me …” or “I think differently!”
Admit that you may be wrong, but ask to discuss it. Say simply: “Maybe I’m wrong (a), but let’s discuss this, we’ll consult …”
Avoid monologue: both if you are told and if you are speaking. Dialogue holds the attention of the interlocutor, allows you to see what was not understood from what you said, and the conclusions that are made during the dialogue are not imposed, they are a general discovery.

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