How to raise teenagers

In the process of raising a teenager, first of all, it is necessary to understand that now he must be perceived as he wants it. But there is a special subtlety here. Let the teenager think that you have fully accepted him in his new demeanor, which changes quite often, but should not guess that you are trying to educate him.

First of all, you must win his trust. Not only love is built on trust, but all relationships between people. For a teenager, it is essential. At his age, secrets and personal life begin to appear. There is no need to get it all out of him. If the child will trust you, then he will tell and share his impressions. No need to condemn his actions categorically and harshly. This will push him away from you. Try to give advice.

Even if, after your advice, the teenager does otherwise and fails, then you do not need to blame and reproach him. The child begins to learn from his mistakes, so calm him down and tell him your life example. Little by little, he will begin to listen to your advice and subconsciously succumb to education.

Often, teenagers themselves do not understand why they need this or that action. They think they know everything and how the world works, but in reality they don’t. When he receives the consequences of his actions, he blames everyone but himself. He needs to be held accountable for his actions. Talk to him about it, but do not read morality. Try to have a relaxing conversation, and then the child will be frank. Tell him about your experiences as a teenager. Preferably one where you made mistakes and how you corrected them. Emphasize that your parents helped you. Then the child will obey you and his upbringing will go more smoothly.