How to send a guy off politely

To send a guy off politely, you should:

Never show yourself and in no way support his initiative, without explaining any reasons and thus not giving him the opportunity to please you. Frequently used words such as: “No”, “I don’t want”, “Not interested”, without any explanation, can ruin any initiative.

Answer his questions strictly within the framework set by him, without expanding them and without adding anything new to what has already been said. Keep your answer as simple as possible so that he gradually gets the feeling that he knows everything about you. By the way, it’s good if from the very beginning of your acquaintance he has a minimum of information about you and your hobbies — this will complicate his task while maintaining communication, which will only play into your hands.

Do not be interested in his personal qualities, opinion and other issues that do not have an objective assessment and thus give the opportunity to involve you in an unnecessary conversation.

Try to make his communication with you uncomfortable, but do not cross the line of politeness. How to achieve this? Use provocative questions and an appraisal frame by putting him in different situations and commenting on his actions. For example, a guy tells that a colleague asked him to help with a report for his boss, and he helped him. Your reaction: “So strange! Why are you allowing yourself to be used? After all, no one will respect you for this.

Show that you don’t share his values, even if you don’t. For this, the eternal theme is very fertile, that you have to pay for everything in this world. For example, he tells you that he and his friends formed a band and they were invited to perform at a concert. Your reaction might be: “Great, and how much will you get paid for this?”. To his explanation that the main thing is to first show oneself, and then think about money, cynically note: “All this, of course, is good … If you are a student. But isn’t it better to do something worthwhile?

In general, more often reduce the conversation to money, implying that the guy should earn well. Men themselves will complete the logical chain: “If a girl constantly says that a man should earn money, then she herself is unlikely to work, which means that I will have to work for at least two. Why do I need it?». Of course, in this way, you will create the wrong image of yourself in his head, but if you need to send the guy off politely, then what does it matter what he thinks about your inner world?