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Researchers have found that men’s brains are better at «scanning» others and noticing the smallest details. This ability developed in a strong field during evolution, when a man was a hunter and was in charge of prey.

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In one Brazilian study, it was found that women have a higher olfactory ability than men. In other words, women are better at distinguishing scents.

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Andrey Smirnov, Master of Psychology, practical psychologist

Since all men are different, a variety of female manifestations can repel.

But if you take the average man brought up in traditional values, then most often the desire of a woman to flirt and be liked by other men is repelled. Such men cannot understand that a woman needs compliments and attention like air. And often the longer the relationship, the fewer compliments and the woman has nothing to do but compensate for their lack on the side.

There are many men who are repelled by women’s extravagance, the desire to have a lot of clothes and jewelry. Often a woman tries to lay the cost of this on a man, which causes irritation and rejection in him, since not all men earn good money.

Often men are irritated by a woman’s inability to cook well and take care of the house. Most men believe that a wife should be an excellent housewife, and, in fact, a cook and servant. But times are changing and so is the secular distribution of roles.

In a relationship, men cannot stand it when they are reproached for something, compared with someone, or constantly “take out the brain” with their claims. If you constantly nag your husband that he earns little, does not want to do anything around the house, this causes rejection and discomfort in the man, leads to scandals, and sometimes, against the background of misunderstanding, the man begins to drink.

There are also notorious men who are infuriated by the fact that the wife earns more money and is higher on the social ladder. The outdated concepts that a man is a breadwinner and a wife maintains a home are irrevocably a thing of the past.

But all of the above does not apply to smart, strong and loving men, who, unfortunately, are still in a noticeable minority. If a man truly loves, then nothing will push him away from his beloved, neither flirting, nor even betrayal. If a man is strong and secure, then he does not need a girlfriend of life as a servant and, if a man is smart, he will never choose a woman who repels him.

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Olga Romaniv, family psychologist

A modern man can be repulsed by anything — and sometimes it can be mutually exclusive things. For example, the woman’s excessive independence and at the same time her unwillingness to pay the bill for herself on the first date. In any case, a woman risks getting the status of a «mercantile person» with all the ensuing consequences. Therefore, you need to focus not on what may or may not push a man away from you, but on yourself.

Because it is impossible to become equally beautiful for everyone, and ideally you need to look for a man who will adequately perceive you. Any adequate person, whether he is a man or a woman, understands that there are features with which he can put up with, but there are those with which he cannot. And in this context, there is no need to worry that you pushed someone away, because this is one of the ways not to waste your time.

What can you advise a woman interested in a particular man? You need to be able to find a balance: be interested, but not be intrusive; show independence, but at the same time do not forget about femininity; be smart, but sometimes be able to pretend to be stupid. And, of course, we must not forget that if a man has feelings, he will forgive you anything, and if they are not there, then there is no point in analyzing and trying to find out from him why he did not call back and disappeared for a long time.

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Tatyana Klishina, psychologist

The most repulsive behavior of a woman that the male world has been facing for several years now is the attitude of a warrior.

Instilled from childhood and adopted on faith from society, the installation programs “the world is dangerous”, “a man must be strong”, “I myself” and the like form a stable stereotype of behavior that is included in most women in a conflict situation.

A woman chooses a way to show how it is to be strong and able to cope with everything.

The problem is that when a man sees male behavior in front of him — an example of strength, at the level of instincts, the ability to take into account the gender of the subject is turned off. And now, standing in front of him is not the woman to whom a moment ago he was sweetly indifferent, but a creature threatening his self.

Do you want protection and help? Are you worried about the future? Ask for support instead of polishing your armor and showing off your sword sharpening skills.

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Oleg Dolgitsky, medical psychologist, forensic psychologist

The most beloved woman for a healthy person from the point of view of psychoanalysis is the image of the mother. One of the most difficult experiences in a man’s life can be that for him the image of the mother becomes alienated from her. The worst thing for a man is when a woman ceases to correspond to the ideal in his head, the basis for which is his mother.

That is why if a woman does not want to be rejected, it is important for her to know the image of the mother that is in the head of a man. For him, mother is usually associated with warm memories. Therefore, it is very important to know about the parents of your man, what they were like, what they did and how they lived. Getting into this image, a woman will always be desired.

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Anna Baranova, family psychologist

It often happens that a woman repels the man she likes with her behavior. This may be due to the fact that a person finds false information about male-female relationships, which is more related to manipulation or insincere behavior.

When building a romantic relationship, it should be remembered that each person is unique in his own way and there is no single recipe for how to interact with men. However, there are some recommendations about constructive behavior that are universal and suitable at any stage of the relationship.

Common mistakes in women’s behavior:

• disrespectful attitude

Such a woman does not respect the personal boundaries and freedom of a partner. She is not interested in his life, his opinion.

• Forever dissatisfied

Such a woman focuses on the negative, her face is always unhappy, all her topics of conversation are complaints about her life and bad circumstances. It is very difficult to tolerate such people. A man needs a muse, not a cloudy cloud.

• very caring

Such behavior is manifested in an inadequate desire of a woman to take care of a man (you might think a woman communicates with her child, not a man). The woman believes that in this way she shows love, but she belittles the man. A man does not need a second mother, have everything in moderation.

• Constantly critical

A woman who constantly criticizes a man’s behavior, devalues ​​his work, interests, runs the risk of getting just such a man — who does not need anything.

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Eduard Lobastov, psychologist

If your man has become cold to you, does not respond to messages and makes it clear that he does not need you in the same way as before, you may have demonstrated behaviors that repel a man:

Often, guys perceive the sincere interest of girls as a fact of obsession with him. If you constantly write to him how you miss him, asking how he is doing every 5 seconds, then this assertiveness is usually perceived as strange.

• Comparison with the former

Nobody likes being compared. If, as a reproach, a man hears “But my ex, unlike you …”, the relationship may end on the same day.

• Excessive compliance

If a man texts you that he wants you to come at 2am and make tea for him, and you fly right away, then don’t be surprised that he will treat you like a servant.

• Dedication

Do you solve all problems for a man? Always tell him what to do? A man must take responsibility for his own life.

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Marina Kalinina, psychologist

Obsession can push a man away. In consultations, I often give an example: imagine, now I get up from my chair, sit next to you close, close and start asking questions. What would you like to do? Move back! Yes, and you will also feel uncomfortable and want to leave as soon as possible.

So it is with men. Relationships should be sufficient, not excessive.

Some distance is needed. Otherwise, it resembles the blocking of oxygen to a person.

Don’t forget to let the relationship breathe!

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Peter Galigabarov, psychologist, member of the Association for Cognitive Behavioral Psychotherapy, fairy tale therapist, art therapist

Different properties of a woman’s personality can repel a man, but I suggest paying attention to exaltation. Maybe you watched the movie «Pokrovsky Gates»? There is a female character there with the phrase: “I am all so sudden, so contradictory all.” Enthusiastic, juicy reactions to various, most insignificant situations, increased arousal — all this can repel. Why?

The world is already unpredictable. Acceptance of uncertainty is difficult for many. If a person wants calm, a semblance of stability, then a partner with constant bursts of emotional reactions is not a companion.

A lot of daydreaming, which is also characteristic of exalted persons, for a particular man is a constant tension. Men are used to solving problems, not just listening to them. Women, on the other hand, often just want to speak out, and exalted ladies do it enthusiastically, imaginatively and often. It’s stressful.